Many people living with abuse doubt themselves. "It's not that bad." "He doesn't hit me." "She's just stressed." Doubt is normal. It does not mean you are wrong.
Abuse takes many forms
- Physical — hitting, kicking, hair-pulling, choking, pushing, holding you down or blocking your way.
- Psychological — threats, humiliation, shouting, being called crazy, threats to take the children.
- Coercive control — someone decides who you see, where you go, what you wear, and checks your phone.
- Financial — being denied money, forced into debt, kept from working or having your own account.
- Sexual — being pressured or forced into sex or sexual acts. In a relationship and in a marriage too.
- Digital — tracking your phone or location, sharing images, threats online.
- Stalking — following you, turning up, refusing to stop contacting you after you have said no.
Does this sound familiar?
- Do you walk on eggshells to avoid making them angry?
- Have you stopped seeing friends or family because it causes trouble?
- Do you feel afraid when you hear the key in the door?
- Are you blamed for their anger?
- Are you scared of what will happen if you leave?
If any of this is true, you deserve to talk to someone.
In Norway call 116 006, day or night, or see everyone who can help. Elsewhere, see outside Norway.
It is a crime
Abusing someone in a close relationship is a crime in Norway, including psychological abuse (Penal Code § 282). It covers partners, former partners, children and others in the household.
You decide whether to report it. You can get advice first without committing to anything.