Guides, rights and tools from organisations we trust — in Norway, Ireland, the UK and the US. These are pages to read. If you need someone to talk to, the numbers are on Get help now and Outside Norway.
Understand what is happening · Safety, your phone and your accounts · Your rights and the law in Norway · In Ireland · In the United States · For men · For children and young people · If you are hurting someone · Knowledge and research
On this site
- Is this abuse?The signs, and the doubt so many people feel.
- Safety planA plan to be safer, whether you stay or go.
- Hide your visitHow to hide that you have been here.
- Ask AskepottAsk a question anonymously, and get an answer with sources.
- NewsThe latest from the people working against abuse.
Understand what is happening
- DinUtvei.noNorway's national guide to violence and abuse: the forms it takes, your rights, and who can help where you live.NKVTS for the Ministry of Justice
- ung.no — violenceBufdir's information site for young people, with answers to questions about violence at home and in relationships.Bufdir
- What is domestic abuse?A clear guide to the forms abuse takes, including coercive control, and what you can do.Women's Aid (England)
- love is respectFor young people: healthy and unhealthy relationships, dating abuse, and how to help a friend.love is respect (USA)
Safety, your phone and your accounts
- Refuge Tech SafetyStep-by-step guides to securing your phone, accounts and devices, and to recognising tech abuse such as tracking.Refuge (UK)
- Technology safety for survivorsPlain guides on phones, location sharing, social media and online harassment.NNEDV Safety Net (USA)
Your rights and the law in Norway
- The police on domestic violenceHow to report, and what the police can do: restraining and contact orders, and a personal violence alarm.Politiet
- Criminal injuries compensationYou may be entitled to compensation from the state after violence. This is where you apply.Kontoret for voldsoffererstatning
- Free legal aidWhen the state pays for a lawyer, including for people who have been subjected to violence.Statens sivilrettsforvaltning
- Penal Code § 282 (in Norwegian)The law that makes abuse in close relationships a crime: serious or repeated threats, coercion, violence or other violations.Lovdata
- The Crisis Centre Act (in Norwegian)Every municipality must offer crisis-centre help to women, men and children. Free, and no referral needed.Lovdata
In Ireland
- Domestic violence and abuse: your rightsSafety orders, protection orders and barring orders in Ireland, and how to apply for them.Citizens Information
- Women's AidSupport for women experiencing domestic abuse in Ireland, with a 24-hour freephone helpline.Women's Aid (Ireland)
- Men's Aid IrelandSupport for men and their families experiencing domestic violence and coercive control.Men's Aid Ireland
- Male Advice LineConfidential support for men experiencing domestic abuse in Ireland.Men's Development Network
- Safe IrelandThe national body for Ireland's domestic violence services, with online safety tips.Safe Ireland
- The Gardaí on domestic abuseHow to report domestic abuse to the Irish police, and what they can do.An Garda Síochána
- Always HereWhat domestic and sexual violence is, making a safety plan, and the State services that can help.Always Here campaign
In the United States
- WomensLaw.orgPlain-language legal information, state by state: protection orders, custody, housing and preparing for court.WomensLaw.org (NNEDV)
- Identify abuseHow to recognise the signs of abuse, from the National Domestic Violence Hotline.National Domestic Violence Hotline
- StrongHearts Native HelplineA domestic and sexual violence helpline for Native Americans and Alaska Natives.StrongHearts Native Helpline
- ChildhelpPrevention and treatment of child abuse, with a national hotline for children and worried adults.Childhelp
- Office on Violence Against WomenThe federal office that leads the national response to domestic and sexual violence.U.S. Department of Justice
For men
- ReformNorway's resource centre for men, with the Men's Phone and advice for men who are subjected to violence.Reform — resource centre for men
- ManKind InitiativeSupport for men subjected to domestic abuse, and plain information for the people around them.ManKind Initiative (UK)
- Men's Advice LineConfidential advice for men experiencing domestic abuse, from Respect.Respect (UK)
For children and young people
- Alarmtelefonen for children and young peopleFor children who are subjected to violence or neglect, or who are worried about someone.Alarmtelefonen for barn og unge
- Kors på halsenThe Red Cross service where children and young people can talk about anything, anonymously.Røde Kors
- The Ombudsperson for ChildrenChildren's rights in Norway, explained for children, and the ombudsperson's work to protect them.Barneombudet
- ChildlineFor children and young people in the UK: advice, message boards and a counsellor to talk to.NSPCC (UK)
If you are hurting someone
- Alternative to Violence (ATV)Treatment for people who use violence, and help for adults and children who are subjected to it. Asking for help to stop is brave.Alternativ til Vold
- Respect PhonelineFor people in the UK who are worried about their own behaviour towards a partner or family.Respect (UK)
Knowledge and research
- NKVTSNorway's national centre for research on violence and traumatic stress.NKVTS
- The regional resource centres (RVTS)Five regional centres on violence, trauma and suicide prevention, with courses and guides for professionals.RVTS
- Bufdir on violenceThe directorate that guides Norway's crisis centres: advice, figures and action plans.Bufdir
- WHO fact sheet: violence against womenGlobal figures, health effects, and what works to prevent violence.World Health Organization
- EIGE on gender-based violenceEurope-wide data and research on gender-based violence.European Institute for Gender Equality
Each link opens the organisation's own site. The links were checked by hand on 4 November 2026, and we look for dead links every week. Something missing, or not working? Write to askepott@purpleaskepott.com.